SAY THIS, NOT THAT: A
Foolproof Guide to Effective Interpersonal Communication
By: Carl Alasko 5
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This is a
great book about how to communicate in a calm manner. The book encourages us to
think about what we want to accomplish with that we are saying. This way of
thinking may deter strong emotional responses, such as saying things in the
wrong way causing the listener to immediately take a defensive stance.
Various
examples are given under everyday communication situations, such as in the workplace,
dating, long-term relationships, parenting and friendship. My only real hang-up
came in when the reply simply states talking about things later, but didn’t
tell you how to handle the follow-up conversations. Fortunately, there is an
advanced section that does slightly cover this. Besides, the point isn’t to
walk you through every situation, but to train you to stay calm and think about
how your words can get you to your ultimate goal.
The advanced
section at the end of the book talks about how to keep relationships in
moderation. Healthy relationships are not built upon people who are
co-dependent or on people who feel little to no emotion. This section covers
other topics including how to stop before you get too angry and irrational and
how to make your family work as a team unit by utilizing family meetings.
Overall, it was a very helpful book.
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