AMY VANDERBILT COMPLETE
BOOK OF ETIQUETTE: 50th Anniversary
By: Nancy Tuckerman &
Nancy Dunnan 5 Stars
I grew up in a small town and when teenagers came close to a
decent dating age the neighborhood would put together an etiquette dinner to
help properly prepare us. Unfortunately, this dinner was never a walk in the
park. Sure there were tea light candles to try and build the mood for an actual
date. They would have beautiful table clothes and correct dinner plate
settings. We were then expected to figure out how to use the place settings in
the correct manner all while we remained prim and proper while indulging
ourselves in spaghetti.
That is right, spaghetti. I know what you are thinking. How
are we supposed to remain posed and clean while we are eating this messy
dish? Well, it was no easy feat. In fact
I am sure that many of us failed miserably in our attempt to keep sauce off our
chins and clothing. Plus we had to remember not to slurp our noodles such as we
have done since childhood. When exactly did that stop being cute anyway? I don’t
remember if we had spoons to twirl our noodles for less mess. If we did then
none of us hick-ish people were actual masters at such a task.
Either way, we learned a lot that night and over the years I
probably still don’t know the proper etiquette for a date. In fact I am pretty
sure I inhale my food much the same way Ross Gellar did while growing up with his
sister Monica. How else is a busy American expected to eat? Never fear. I
picked up the Amy Vanderbilt Complete
Book of Etiquette in order to solve my problems. This War and Peace sized book covers multiple topics, yet it is still
incomplete. Sadly, it does not include information on how to properly eat
spaghetti on a date, but it does cover similar topics in a roundabout way.
The book is composed of eight chapters. These chapters are
broken into subjects that require everyday attention and subjects that only
deal with special occasions, such as a wedding. The most helpful chapters were
the ones dealing with private and personal lives. I am sure you are thinking that
etiquette is only suited to people like royalty in England. You might be
surprised, as I was, to find that this book contains information on naming your
child, dealing with hand-me-downs, nannies, teaching children about money for
various age ranges, helping with siblings and dealing with teenagers need for
space.
Other details are given such as preserving family history,
how to handle divorce or the loss of a spouse, the role of the guest as well as
the role of a host, even your appearance. Many ladies will be happy to know
that the book tells you to get a professional pedicure once a month. Tell your
husband you are only following proper etiquette and see what happens.
Information is found for tipping and who to actually tip as
well as suggestions for television and radio appearances. The professional life
section is almost a mirror image of other books on resume writing, interviewing
and following up with the interview. It was well done. Some pleasantly
surprising information came in the form of lists. These lists include a guest
room or bathroom amenities or suggested presents to give based on your
relationship to an individual who is getting married.
My least favorite part was in the communication section. It
explains that “have a nice day” is really an insincere way of saying goodbye.
Excuse me? I say that to lots of people every day and sincerely hope they do
have a nice day. Hmm, I might have to find something else to say. My most favorite part came in the form of
questions that should not be asked, such as someone’s age. The best one was
asking an individual if they have had cosmetic surgery. Come on, we all noticed
something got bigger (or smaller) and we are all dying to hear what excuse you
will come up with. It is suggested that instead you mention that a person looks
great and remark that they must have been on some fabulous vacation. Fine, I’ll
think about it, but that doesn’t mean I still don’t want to hear the story
about the botched surgeries!
Hi Meissa, I loved this post I remember those ettiquette dinners, only ours were in homemaking class, annnd we had to wear the skirts we'd made, oh the horror. The shop class was there too.
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