Friday, June 20, 2014

Simple Communication


SAY THIS, NOT THAT: A Foolproof Guide to Effective Interpersonal Communication

By: Carl Alasko                                   5 Stars  

This is a great book about how to communicate in a calm manner. The book encourages us to think about what we want to accomplish with that we are saying. This way of thinking may deter strong emotional responses, such as saying things in the wrong way causing the listener to immediately take a defensive stance.

Various examples are given under everyday communication situations, such as in the workplace, dating, long-term relationships, parenting and friendship. My only real hang-up came in when the reply simply states talking about things later, but didn’t tell you how to handle the follow-up conversations. Fortunately, there is an advanced section that does slightly cover this. Besides, the point isn’t to walk you through every situation, but to train you to stay calm and think about how your words can get you to your ultimate goal.

The advanced section at the end of the book talks about how to keep relationships in moderation. Healthy relationships are not built upon people who are co-dependent or on people who feel little to no emotion. This section covers other topics including how to stop before you get too angry and irrational and how to make your family work as a team unit by utilizing family meetings. Overall, it was a very helpful book.

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